Thursday, July 10, 2014


"I must be a mermaid, Rango. I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living." ~Anaïs Nin

I wish that I could love practically,

For the number of respectable men who have loved me is great.

But love cannot be directed in such a way...reason says no word that love hears.

Love cannot be directed,

Attraction not governed.

Either it is there, 

Or it is not.

Either it is used to slowly create a vineyard of ancient, lovingly entangled roots,

Or it is allowed to burn out, like a candle in the night.

All too often I fall for the impractical ones,


More wounded than not.

Souls knowing each other several times. 

Irresistible connections,


But only momentarily.

A moment that feels like eternity,

Then becomes a faint ghost in the distant past.

Yes, several times I have known this powerful love. Like walking on fire...

But now even that bores me, I grow tired,

Of a love so powerful, but on one end shallow.

Love is not love that is not cherished.

Love is not love that is expendable.

Love ebbs and flows, but is dependable.

If you can throw me away,

If you can grow burdened by my love,

You do not deserve me,

And cannot receive what I am. 

You may have known me for a moment,

But you could not withstand the pressure of swimming so deeply inside yourself any longer,

It made you mad with intensity,

You had to surface.

You knew me once in the depths,

But know me no more, 

And if your mind endeavors to feel superior 

By suggesting that I don't know my own heart entirely,

Or that I mean to say something

Other than what my words convey,

That is your perception,

And not reality. 

You may have your illusion.

You do not perceive me any longer.

I cannot place my love logically,

And I am tired of bestowing privileges 

On fearful men. It is no longer worth it, to love so hard and be abandoned over and over again so rapidly. That too, is not good enough.

Though I have believed it to be,

I have never known my equal.

I have not known one who could sustain

Such powerful love,

And not need to run back to shallower depths of sensation. 

I have not found one,

That truly endeavors to deserve me,

That truly receives me,

Because if I did,

He'd be a damn fool and slightly insane

To ever conceive of releasing me.

Never before was it so clear that there is only one of me, 

And if you can ever let me go, 

You never deserved all that I am.

It is too deep,

Too powerful,

Too bold 

For most.

But I will not feign normality,

I will not moderate to make your ego more comfortable.

So if you can't feel every drop of the ocean that I am,

And if it doesn't make every particle of your being love-drunk, 

Swaying with the currents,

And if you don't recognize

The merging of our particles as sacred,

A catalyst of every potent and natural in ourselves,

And that you run just as deeply as I do,

Then please do walk away.

Get out of my sight.

Because in all ways and extents

I am done will shallow living,

And will tolerate no more hand-to-mouth love,

No more hand-to-mouth life. 

Do not pat me on the head before you go,

I know who I am, your words are silly.

And do savor it if I look at you as you walk away, 

Because my love was grace.

When I loved you, it was because I saw you as an equal,

And when you left me,

It was because you couldn't see it the same way. I lifted you up to a height which you were unaccustomed,

And you were frightened.

You couldn't trust in me,

In yourself,

Or in what was coming.

So I cannot any longer abide less than what I deserve in this world,

I will not relinquish myself to endless suffering. 

I will not allow myself to be wasted in the shallow depths,

I will live in the depths that are my home, in all ways. 

I refuse to settle for shallow roots,

Shallow love.

My depth will permeate every aspect of my life.

From the depths I will never return.

So if you, whoever you are, wish to meet me, to know me,

It is you who must learn on your own to dive so deeply,

Fortify your heart & mind,

As to be able to remain in the deepest, mysterious realms of the ocean of life, ocean of Self,

To handle the pressures of reality,

And the immensity of this love

That is me.

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Fate Doesn't Absolve You Of Responsibility

"If you wait for fate to hand you the life you want, while you make little or no effort, and project responsibility for your life outside of yourself, passively into the world, you have no one to blame but yourself for feeling like a stranger in your own life. Stand on your feet and take the reigns, if you are not an active participant in your own life, you have no right to ask anything of life nor others, you have no reason to expect any of your dreams to come true. If you choose to half-ass your own life, what can you expect but half of what you truly want, at best?"

Free Will vs. Passive "Fate"~

There are certainly two major forces at work in shaping our lives.. The world inside of ourselves and the world outside of ourselves. They are inextricably interconnected, as everything is, however, it is like cold and warm currents flowing in a body of water~ opposite energies dance to create balance. This world is that dance of yin & yang, female & male, cold & hot, receptive & active.. And so on. 

We seem to try to be all or nothing in a world that demands balance of both polarities.. We cannot entirely control our inner and outer world. We likewise are not benefitted by remaining passive or on auto-pilot in our inner and outer dealings.

Often many awakening people put too much emphasis on fate. "If it's meant to be, it will be". I believe in synchronicity wholeheartedly, but I have also seen this to be true~ the present moment is the only moment in which we have control, and if you choose to passively let an opportunity presented pass you by, you officially forfeit any fated connected and potential energy therein contained.

If you pass up the love or friendship you have dreamed of, or that amazing job offer, you have CHOSEN to forfeit it. The universe handed it to you, whether you felt ready or not, it gave you a chance to rapidly grow and expand into your own dreams, and you CHOSE to let it pass you by.

Some chances come back around, or another love will come, but some do not return. Some serve as a harsh lesson to never again neglect to seize the day and opportunities to live fully from your heart, and chances to expand far beyond your fear and past habits instead of paralyzing yourself in the sheer majesty of the potential before you. You choose to allow yourself to be paralyzed. You choose fear. You rationalize your choice of fear. You stay small, stunted and safe, instead of choosing growth, expansion, and magic. 

We are best served when we use our receptivity to accept the choices and truths of others and facts of reality in our present experience, but use our active choices, self-control and determination to carve out an inner world, character and lifestyle that doesn't negate our unique inner light, but amplifies it and brings it as potently as possible into this world. 

Self-control is abuse if it is used to deny our uniqueness, if it is used in order to diminish or hide our power as to not be seen nor make waves. Self-control is neglect if it allows rumination, self-pity and faulty habits of lifestyle and mind that simply enable us to be stuck, lazy, and resistant to fully living. 

Receptivity is abused when we use it to be a lazy and passive participant in our own lives, but is a virtue when used to accept every detail of the world and others and current reality as it truly is, moment to moment. 

Use the dance between receptivity and choice/action with awareness, and this is one of your greatest powers to unleash your fullest potential in this world, in all ways. Remember that everything is a choice, even inaction. You must push yourself to be unafraid of your true strength and majesty.